I have come up with the top ten things you should NEVER say to a pregnant woman. Live It, Learn It, Love It.
PLEASE keep an open mind when reading this. I am not speaking to you specifically.(unless you asked one of these questions of me, haha!)
10. "Can I touch your belly?"
-No! I am pregnant, that does not make me public property people.
9. "Was this planned?" or "How did THAT happen?"
- Planned or not planned, that is none of anyone’s business besides mine and my husbands. If you are a close friend or family member this could be acceptable. However if I do not know you but we happen to be shopping at the same place it does not give you the right to pry into my personal/sex life. The point is, we are pregnant, and we are super excited to be having another little baby joining our lives.
And it happened the same way it has happened for a million plus years.
8. "Are you sure you are not having twins?"
- Unless you KNOW for sure someone is having multiples, DO NOT ASK THIS. Pregnant women feel huge anyway, even if they are right on target and have barely gained any weight. Having someone ask this is just a blow to the ego and just plain rude. I know I have a big 'ol belly sticking out BUT that is what happens when you are pregnant. Maybe I had one too many chocolate covered strawberries on Valentine’s day, but again that is what happens when you are pregnant. Baby in belly = protruding belly.
7. "You can really tell you are pregnant! Your face/butt/hips/thighs are really starting to fill out."
-Really? Would you like it if someone told you that you were starting to "fill out". Pregnant women still have feelings ya know?
6. Any unsolicited story about the worst labor experience ever.
-I am not a fan of former pregnant women sharing "helpful" advice when they should know better. If it is truly helpful advice it is one thing, telling someone you tore from one end to the other is not helpful, it is scary.
Unless the pregnant woman asks about how the epidural failed, Do. Not. Tell. Her.
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5. "Should you really be eating/drinking that?
-What are you, the public nutrition police? Criticizing whatever a pregnant woman is eating or drinking is not appropriate nor safe. What a pregnant woman eats and drinks is her business, not yours. I am pretty sure having a cup of coffee here and there is not going to ruin my child.
4. "Are you going to breastfeed?"
-My personal favorite is when people say "Boob or bottle?" REALLY??
This is a very personal choice and you should not be asking this. It is no one’s business.
3. "You look ready to pop, I can't believe you still have (insert time frame here) to go."
-Thank you. So what you're saying is I'm fatter then what I should be? A pregnant woman can be very self-conscious of her growing size. You're probably doing nothing but making her feel even more insecure then she already is, especially if she still has a few months to go.
2. Anything negative about name choices.
- I am sure pregnant women do not care if you once had fish or dog with the same name we have chosen, I know I do not. Thanks for making me associate my child’s name with an animal though. I appreciate it.
1. "Are you planning on having more kids or are you going to get fixed?"
-Again with the personal questions! This is something to be decided between the pregnant woman and her husband. And fixed? Really? What are we dogs?
For some odd reason people seem to have no boundaries when talking to a pregnant woman. Next time you think about asking a pregnant woman an inappropriate question, or rubbing her belly . . . Ask yourself, would I say or do this to any other person? If the answer is no, then you should probably think twice about what you may say or do.
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